DSC00231.JPGI’m a golfer.  Or rather, I play the game of golf.  My handicap consistently hovers around 22 which means I can shoot anywhere from 105 to 85 but mostly score somewhere in the mid-90’s.

I know the rules.

I practice good golf etiquette.

I can play in a tournament and not embarrass myself or my partner.

I maintain a good pace of play.

I never take myself too seriously.

And I’ve learned a lot about people by spending a few hours with them on the golf course.

I discovered that playing the game of golf is a lot like playing the game of life.  Many of the same lessons and rules apply to both.

A round of golf is 18 holes.  Eighteen chances to test your skill with a little ball and a few clubs. Four hours to stay focused, stay calm, and face whatever situation you find yourself in. Chances for brilliance and sheer stupidity. Thoughtful risks and downright idiotic chaos. Eighteen challenges that tap your ability to ultimately put that little ball in the hole.
And the only one who can make it happen is you.
Sure. You might have a playing partner. Or a caddie. Or your golf pro giving your some pointers. You might have a yardage reader, sky caddie, or any number of gadgets, but you still need to stand up, assess the situation, select your club, and give it your best shot (no pun intended).

No one can do it for you.
Golf is a game that looks easy but is far from it.  I’ve seen people go to the driving range with no idea how to hold a club let alone how to swing a club.  But they hack away, swinging harder and harder and getting more and more frustrated.  The harder they try, the worse things get.
People don’t usually say, “I’m really good at life”  but when things start to go south, they often say, “My life is so hard.”

They ooze tension.

They hold children, friends, & their partner in a death grip and continue to squeeze until the people they love the most scatter instead of pull closer.

They overthink the most minor decisions.

They are stuck repeating bad habits and can’t figure out why their situation, their relationships, their demeanor never changes.

So here’s my answer for both:  spend some time with an excellent coach.  Learn good habits before you develop bad ones.  Find someone who will work with what you have and where you are whether you’re a beginner or an experienced player.

We don’t hesitate to utilize a personal trainer, nutritionist, yoga instructor, swing coach, ski coach, music teacher, voice coach, or acting coach.

We eagerly sign up for cooking lessons and dance lessons.

So find a personal trainer for your life. A great coach. Someone who will provide inspiration for the game you play every day.

This is your life, my friend. Get moving and maximize every ounce of your extraordinary self!!

Where do you start? You just start. And if you are stuck, call me. I’ll teach you how to tap into all of that undiscovered potential and take your game to the next level.  What are you waiting for?